iluvroadrunner6 | (no subject)

Can you guys tell me if I'm over-reacting here?

OK, so every year my church has a local carnival, where there's games and rides and food. My mom gave my two younger siblings twenty-five dollars to buy a ride pass, and then five bucks on top of that for games/food. She didn't have a lot of cash on her though, so when the older of my two brothers showed up and asked her for money, she didn't have any. So she told him to go ask me for cash (she didn't give me any, btw), and that she would pay me back the next day. I really didn't want to loan my brother money (because I don't work while I'm in school, so I have to save up, and I had a lot of unexpected expenses this summer--so I don't have a lot saved up), but I did it anyway. At the end of the night, I asked for the change back.

First of all, should I not have asked for the change back?

When he gets home, he demands the change back, saying that it was "his" money, and I had no right to ask for it back. A huge argument ensues, which ended in him calling me selfish and self-centered.

Keep in mind the fact that he just came back from a road trip, and he had twenty-six dollars at the beginning of the day and knew that he was coming to the fair, and he burns through money like it's nobody's business. Also--he can be a real jackass when he wants to be, and when he asks you for money, he asks you like he's entitled to it, and won't let up until you give it to him. So tell me--did I overreact? Honestly?

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Nope. I say you're completely justified, especially if for some unforseen reason your mom doesn't pay you back.

He really pushed my buttons tonight. He walks around acting like he's king of the world, and then he tells me I have no social skills because I don't spend every minute of the day with people outside my family.

He's an ass. Seriously.

That sounds like my sister, so you have my most sincere apoligies. Just keep on waiting til he leaves home and has to deal with things in the real world.

I'd be pissed, so no, you're not out of line.

Course, I'd make some comment about being responsible, he'd go tell Mom, and I'd get in trouble for that. But, that's just me.

No. Funny thing is my parents would completely agree with me.

Hahaha. That's good.

Ew. That sucks. You're entirely justified.

That sounds like my brother. You are not over reacting at all, I'd say. It's not his money, it's your money and you deserve it back.

It's not his money,

Exactly. He said that I "forefitted it being my money" when I gave it to him.

Bullshit, in my opinion.

I don't think your overreacting at all. Its your money that you've earned and saved. You have a right to ask for your change back.

Of course over here I've resigned myself to the fact that my money is automatically my sisters *shrug* to me it just got to big of a hassle.

Of course over here I've resigned myself to the fact that my money is automatically my sisters *shrug* to me it just got to big of a hassle.

I could understand that, but he has a job too and actually makes more than I do. So--I'm a bit put off that he's hitting me up for cash all the time.

Then he really should understand why you need the money more than he does. I'm not sure what to tell you, but you know I completely agree.

You were totally justified.

Not an overreaction at all.

He's going to have a rude awakening if he thinks real life loans are like that. When the bank wants its money back, the bank gets its money back, bitch.

Tell me about it. Rrrghh--I wanted to beat him with a stick last night.

I think you perfectly (if not underly) reacted.

I'm a mooch myself, but if someone says no I take that answer and move on to someone else. Asking for change back after giving him money is perfectly understandable. There are certain social skills you need in the real world, like not being an asshole for example....

There are certain social skills you need in the real world, like not being an asshole for example....

LOL. Yes, that's a skill he kinda needs to learn.

Not at all! I think you had every right to be pissed.

I would've reacted the same. It is your money after all and you deserve to get it back!

You're justified, especially if your mom doesn't pay you back like she said. Weird.